Overwhelmed is a state I often find myself in. There is a phrase that goes, "when it rains, it pours." With me, it never seems to stop pouring. That's just how it's always been. The week my last semester of college started, I turned 22, my then-boyfriend broke up with me, and my paternal grandmother died... for instance. And now I'm trying to write a novel in the same month that I'm trying to renovate a house, or more correctly, finish renovating a house, a house I must move into the same month, oh, and of course there's a little holiday called Thanksgiving in there, too, which means driving back and forth across the state repeatedly. And I'm still considering taking a weekly hot yoga class, just to make things a little more interesting.
Usually when so many things like this happen simultaneously, my brain goes into overload, and I can get kind of depressed recounting everything that has to get done and realizing the improbability of any of it getting done. It makes me not want to do any of it. And the worst part is, I feel like I have a justified reason to quit. So I usually quit.
But then the most amazing thing happens. Everything ends up getting done. And the world doesn't explode. I still don't know how.
Up until this morning, I had justified to myself how ridiculous it was for me to agree to all these commitments and how foolish I was to believe I could accomplish any of them. I had given it the old college try, I told myself. I had learned some new things. I should be proud of what I've done up to now. Everyone will understand if I stop now.
Then I realized I should be used to being overwhelmed by now. And if I were to quit, I would just take all that time that I had devoted to projects and use it as an excuse to sit on the couch and feel sorry for myself. There are 200,000 other people out there right now who probably have just as busy of lives as I do, and I don't hear any of them complaining. In fact, I get emails from some of them (just randomly--I have no idea who they are) empathizing with the way I feel and then offering encouraging words to keep me going on. I always feel like my life is so much more outrageous than everyone else's, but really, I just like making excuses and letting myself off the hook. Being busy is just the American way. We like to bite off more than we can chew, even if we choke a few times getting it down our throat.
So last night I had decided to give up on NaNoWriMo, focus on finishing the house and getting moved and maybe get my grad school app done since December's lookin' crazy, too. And then this morning I changed my mind.
I'm 10,000 words behind. I think you are not surprised to hear that. I'm still not promising I'm going to be able to hit that 50,000-word mark. But I am promising to continue to try.
Because I'm desperate for every word I can get, I decided that when I'm writing, I just have to be as honest as possible. I'm writing everything I think and feel about whatever or whomever I'm writing about. It's been quite eye-opening. If I were reading my book as a complete stranger to my family and myself, I would think that I was a jerk and a brat. I've written some pretty terrible things about almost everyone, but it's not that I think terrible things about everyone. It's just, taken out of perspective, my opinions about things and people sound negative. I'll write a whole paragraph about my brother's perpetual tardiness and finish it with, "Well, this paragraph will never make it in the book," because I know it's coming off hurtful instead of intended funny (because it is comical--love ya, bro!). So that will be definitely a hurdle in the editing process.
Another major problem I'm finding is who this book is about. It's clearly about my grandfather, right? Wrong. So far, it's about me. And that's what memoirs are supposed to be about. But I don't know if I'm happy with that. Do I want my viewpoint only, even though it's so limited? Or do I want to include my extended family members, get their opinions, their stories, their memories? Or would that be opening a can of worms? I'm just not sure what would make the best story yet. Hopefully the answers to these questions will start revealing themselves the more I type.
I'm nearly 14,000 words, which sounds like an astronomical amount, but it's really only a quarter of the way and an entire week behind where I should be. But I'm feeling good. I'm not running out of steam yet. I have plenty still to talk about. In fact, probably too much.
Monday, November 15, 2010
Friday, November 5, 2010
Being okay with crap...
Well, we're five days into NaNoWriMo, and I only have 4,000 words written so far, 8,000 words away from what my goal is for Sunday. In my defense, it's been a rough week.
We started it in Florida where we were hoping to see the shuttle "Discovery" blast off into space. Discovery was having a lot of trouble the week before, little mishaps that kept popping up, but NASA engineers were working day and night to get her all patched up for her big ride. Well, the day before we were supposed to leave, NASA announced the launch would be delayed a day. We hurriedly changed our flights, added another night onto our hotel stay, and rearranged all our vacation plans. A friend who was supposed to come with us, though, backed out because he couldn't afford a new flight and an extra day off of work. Such is the businesses of space travel spectating. It's a risk you have to be willing to take, and he wasn't.
So he got a refund on his Saturday plane ticket while Chris and I cashed ours in, but just after landing on the tarmac in sunny Orlando and turning on our cell phones the minute the pilot said it was okay, Chris discovered Discovery was pushed back another day, another day we ourselves could not afford to stay. In other words, we had a black cloud following us around the whole four days we were down there. Don't get me wrong, it was a great trip. It was 85 degrees, 35 degrees warmed than we were accustomed to in chilly Michigan, and we still got to see plenty of awesome things, like the shuttle actually sitting on the launch pad. However, since we did things that were related to NASA and the shuttle launch, our emotions were confused. We would see something really interesting and astounding, and we were elated, and then it would remind us of the shuttle launch, and we were depressed. There was so much sorrow in our smiles. It was the epitome of bittersweet.
I had planned on having a lot of time to write on day one and day two, because shuttle launches are all about hurrying up and then having to wait, so with all the down time we would have on the causeway waiting for the countdown on Monday and of course the airplane ride home on Tuesday, I figured I'd have plenty of opportunity to spit out a couple thousand words at least. But then our plans changed, I didn't have quite so much free time, and the little bit I did attempt to write I thought was terrible, and the trip had already been depressing enough.
But I still had my original battle plan of writing for two hours every day after work before Chris got home. Only when I returned to work on Wednesday, all hell had broken loose while I was gone, and my boss was practically begging me to do overtime. Now everyone loves a little cash in their pocket, but when's a girl supposed to find time to write? And of course every evening is spent renovating our house, so I was starting to feel up a crick without a paddle.
One of these nights, after a minor nervous breakdown, I told Chris I couldn't spend much time at the house because I needed to write if I was gonna take this pledge to NaNoWriMo seriously. (Haha it's hard to talk seriously about something called NaNoWriMo, but I digress) So I got myself a cup of tea and a slice of cake and I sat down at my computer and got serious.
Only everything I wrote was crap. Crap, crap, crap. I felt like I was in third grade again, writing pages of run-on sentences and boring plot lines strung together with "and thens."
In fact, overall, it hasn't been finding the time that's been the problem this week. You can always find the time if you look hard enough. It's getting motivated to face my monitor when I know all that's coming out is crap.
I argued with myself a lot this week, asking myself if it was worth it to spend so much time if I would have to rewrite my entire end product, and if I should bother wasting so many bad words when I could be writing better (though fewer) words. But I keep trying to remind myself that it's about words in general, good and bad, and just getting some on the page, which is a task that seemed to be eluding me before this month started. And yes, I'm writing a lot of stuff that will end up getting crossed out with the most brilliant red pen I own, but there's also little gems here and there, ideas I hadn't thought to include before, metaphors I hadn't pondered before, poetry I didn't know I was capable of before. That alone, I think, is the reason so many people believe in NoNaWriMo and want to be a part of it. I just have to keep reminding myself.
Luckily, I've got help. At least two friends on my facebook are "suffering" (though self-imposed) with me, both veteran writers who love to root this rookie on. They reassured me that writing crap is okay and even they, with their more advanced writing level, are still writing their share of crap and then some. One friend doesn't even bother looking back at anything he's written. In fact, he's got a writing program that only lets him see the last hundred words he's typed, which I think is friggin' genius. I find myself writing for a good fifteen minutes, hitting a wall for a moment, and then checking my word totals, only to find they've increased by a mere hundred or so. The other encourages me to not stop writing for anything, and to switch gears to a different plot line or character if I feel myself slowing down. Great advice from both and great encouragement!
But to be honest, the most helpful thing they told me was that they were writing crap, too. It reminds me I'm not alone.
So I will trudge on. Hopefully I can find some time this weekend between laying hardwood floors in our house to catch up on those 8,000 words. If it's one thing I've learned so far, it's that getting behind by even a day can really hurt your numbers, and after all, this really is all about the numbers (since it's certainly not about good writing). I guess I need to take Tod up on his offer and have a POWER WEEKEND!
We started it in Florida where we were hoping to see the shuttle "Discovery" blast off into space. Discovery was having a lot of trouble the week before, little mishaps that kept popping up, but NASA engineers were working day and night to get her all patched up for her big ride. Well, the day before we were supposed to leave, NASA announced the launch would be delayed a day. We hurriedly changed our flights, added another night onto our hotel stay, and rearranged all our vacation plans. A friend who was supposed to come with us, though, backed out because he couldn't afford a new flight and an extra day off of work. Such is the businesses of space travel spectating. It's a risk you have to be willing to take, and he wasn't.
So he got a refund on his Saturday plane ticket while Chris and I cashed ours in, but just after landing on the tarmac in sunny Orlando and turning on our cell phones the minute the pilot said it was okay, Chris discovered Discovery was pushed back another day, another day we ourselves could not afford to stay. In other words, we had a black cloud following us around the whole four days we were down there. Don't get me wrong, it was a great trip. It was 85 degrees, 35 degrees warmed than we were accustomed to in chilly Michigan, and we still got to see plenty of awesome things, like the shuttle actually sitting on the launch pad. However, since we did things that were related to NASA and the shuttle launch, our emotions were confused. We would see something really interesting and astounding, and we were elated, and then it would remind us of the shuttle launch, and we were depressed. There was so much sorrow in our smiles. It was the epitome of bittersweet.
I had planned on having a lot of time to write on day one and day two, because shuttle launches are all about hurrying up and then having to wait, so with all the down time we would have on the causeway waiting for the countdown on Monday and of course the airplane ride home on Tuesday, I figured I'd have plenty of opportunity to spit out a couple thousand words at least. But then our plans changed, I didn't have quite so much free time, and the little bit I did attempt to write I thought was terrible, and the trip had already been depressing enough.
But I still had my original battle plan of writing for two hours every day after work before Chris got home. Only when I returned to work on Wednesday, all hell had broken loose while I was gone, and my boss was practically begging me to do overtime. Now everyone loves a little cash in their pocket, but when's a girl supposed to find time to write? And of course every evening is spent renovating our house, so I was starting to feel up a crick without a paddle.
One of these nights, after a minor nervous breakdown, I told Chris I couldn't spend much time at the house because I needed to write if I was gonna take this pledge to NaNoWriMo seriously. (Haha it's hard to talk seriously about something called NaNoWriMo, but I digress) So I got myself a cup of tea and a slice of cake and I sat down at my computer and got serious.
Only everything I wrote was crap. Crap, crap, crap. I felt like I was in third grade again, writing pages of run-on sentences and boring plot lines strung together with "and thens."
In fact, overall, it hasn't been finding the time that's been the problem this week. You can always find the time if you look hard enough. It's getting motivated to face my monitor when I know all that's coming out is crap.
I argued with myself a lot this week, asking myself if it was worth it to spend so much time if I would have to rewrite my entire end product, and if I should bother wasting so many bad words when I could be writing better (though fewer) words. But I keep trying to remind myself that it's about words in general, good and bad, and just getting some on the page, which is a task that seemed to be eluding me before this month started. And yes, I'm writing a lot of stuff that will end up getting crossed out with the most brilliant red pen I own, but there's also little gems here and there, ideas I hadn't thought to include before, metaphors I hadn't pondered before, poetry I didn't know I was capable of before. That alone, I think, is the reason so many people believe in NoNaWriMo and want to be a part of it. I just have to keep reminding myself.
Luckily, I've got help. At least two friends on my facebook are "suffering" (though self-imposed) with me, both veteran writers who love to root this rookie on. They reassured me that writing crap is okay and even they, with their more advanced writing level, are still writing their share of crap and then some. One friend doesn't even bother looking back at anything he's written. In fact, he's got a writing program that only lets him see the last hundred words he's typed, which I think is friggin' genius. I find myself writing for a good fifteen minutes, hitting a wall for a moment, and then checking my word totals, only to find they've increased by a mere hundred or so. The other encourages me to not stop writing for anything, and to switch gears to a different plot line or character if I feel myself slowing down. Great advice from both and great encouragement!
But to be honest, the most helpful thing they told me was that they were writing crap, too. It reminds me I'm not alone.
So I will trudge on. Hopefully I can find some time this weekend between laying hardwood floors in our house to catch up on those 8,000 words. If it's one thing I've learned so far, it's that getting behind by even a day can really hurt your numbers, and after all, this really is all about the numbers (since it's certainly not about good writing). I guess I need to take Tod up on his offer and have a POWER WEEKEND!
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